QuitCHIR (Quit Complaining, Harumping, Imploding, Raging.)
and Friday at the office were pretty tough. Reentry after a few days of
family and friends and celebrating holidays is tough. But when there
are changes, transitions and unknowns on top of it, and several women
who don't always deal well with any of these, negativity is a mushroom
cloud. We all got a 1 1/2% raise and the government took 2%. We work in
medicine which changes every year, more so this year than usual. Staff
has changed, and folks are dealing with car issues, family problems,
diets, and just overall stress. Monday, the first day that I had decided
to pay attention to the waves of negativity I surf I got an eyeful and I
just gotta say. WHEW!!!! I'm not sure there were any uplifting,
positive comments uttered. Oh, there was black humor and sarcasm
aplenty. But as funny as sarcasm is, it's simply disguised cynicism. One
of the best things about my job is that when my morning appointments
are done, the rest of my day is flexible, and I can come early and leave
early. That can be a lifesaver. When I go in before we open, I have
silence or lowkey interactions for long periods of time. Two of my
coworkers do the opposite. They come in late morning and stay after we
close up shop. Are we instinctively trying to create nests of sanity in
What do your environments look like? The same quagmires? Do you have a safety net?
I suggest that when we recognize a negative thought, or comment coming
out of our mouths, or even out of the mouths of others, that we toss out
something positive. Simply look at our half empty glass and pour
something into it so it begins to look half full. You don't have to
attack your friend, family member or co-worker with a glitter wand,
though I'm thinking that could be VERY effective in some situations.
Positive can be remembering that if there is a huge pile of horse poo
there's gotta be a pony, right? Look for the pony in the poo. Or, maybe.
put on the eyeglasses of compassion and agree with your coworker that
maybe life is hard, but.... the sun is shining. You've both got your
jobs and that she's good at her job. Don't forget to look inward and
combat self-talk, too. Use this tool against your own inner monologue of
negativity. You, each of us, has something to offer the world.
Sometimes the most simple act can mean the most. Being kind, patient,
upbeat or gentle can make someone's really rotten day begin to look up,
even if that really rotten day is yours.
Change. I've learned to embrace it, ride it out til the end. Sometimes I'm kicking and screaming, other times weeping with my eyes clinched tight. Once in awhile I ride like a dog in a car, head out the window snorting what life has to offer. Mother to young adult children, a marriage of thirty years, and a desert to mountain to valley waltz with God have shaped me into someone I never imagined I'd be. Life is short and I want to live it. Tears, sighs, laughter and change. Every morsel granted to me. Scrambled, shaken or stirred.